Did you even notice I was offline yesterday?
Yeah, I thought so too. . . who cares as such; I was still gonna subscribe and we’ll do the usual thing online, right?
That not-so-brief moment off subjected me to a lot of torturous thoughts:
What do you care about me?
Ain’t I just an online friend?
Would you call or text after a week, if I didn’t show?
Or wait my status update is my “I’m online” update; once you see it, you’ll buzz me “It’s been a while”
A good number of us still prefer the traditional mode of communication —the line mode; the one that doesn’t check if you’re offline or online before a message is dropped; the one that keeps tabs on your call frequency; the one that initiates the offline and makes it stay that way; the one that heightens your heart’s bang when a carefully recorded message plays to your hearing that the user is not reachable. Yeah, that kind.
The online-offline method being used today has recorded good success in helping people reach one another with less airtime and more chat time, talk time, face time, zoom time and effortlessly, no time.
Today, if you’re not online as a normal individual –not brand, you appear under the no time category; with calls coming in as frequent as thrice in a month from those who thought of you but remind you about your unwillingness to have done so before they did or more because your network providers decided they’d cheer you up with an advert.
My cousin, Adam, whilst dissecting the pros and cons of advancement in the telecommunication industry affirms that “the easier communication is made, the harder people communicate,” adding a rhetoric: Do i really know if you are fine?
Fine. The regular reply to most questions has become a facade – our new facemask; describing what we wish but experiencing the other.
What type are you? The call type, or the text type?
Determining what category you fall in does not matter much as to how well you make out time to actually treat it. Being online doesn’t mean much if no one feels it; it still appears to them as though you were offline. See, the truth is: not everyone wants to have a conversation as long as it used to be when this all started; not everyone has time to; not everyone will. To the few that do, kudos.
Some are bored being online, and to some boredom is defined when they are offline. Remember what I started with? The traditional mode, some have hopes hanging here. Here’s the gist: A waits hours for B online, B doesn’t show but is open to calls and text which never shows either, and C is the ghost; their activities are minute online but they still have their cellphone with a line, just like A and B.
This cycle has become our proper definition and no one seems to want to break out; we give credit to not having credit to call or text. While this is true for some, others don’t see it’s relevance until it’s too late to call or text.
I default in this, probably you do too (we all have our reasons) but you can join me break this cycle, even now. A text or call to someone you haven’t heard from (not to point accusing fingers, but) to say “Hi, you’ve always crossed my mind. I’m sorry I never crossed the line to reach you. How have you been?”
(You could tailor it to suit your taste though, but you get my point.)
I know, you’re being tempted to scroll past this. DON’T until you’ve done the above. That temptation is what pulls one back to the cycle.
Oh, and Yes, don’t wait till it’s their birthday before you do (like my bank people)!
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Let’s go offline for a while, shall we?